Creating Space For This

The first thing we do at a Nia Intensive, after going though the 4 Energy Allies, is learn how to Create Space.  Although this seems like such a simple gesture and such a humble way to begin an endeavor, the repercussions of this as the beginning of the practice are monumentuous.  Here is the why of both the Energy Allies (aka. The 4 Agreements) and Creating Space: To get rid of distractions. Wow. Think about it for just one moment, how many things do you have to distract you around you at this very moment? Reading this blog might be a distraction even (though I hope it is a worthy one.) Life in so full of potential distractions and I have not even gotten to the best distraction of them all and the one I struggle with the most, my mind. My unruly mind.

My teacher, Carlos Rosas, gave me that term, “the unruly mind”. And the “unruly realms”, since my physical body, my emotions and my daydreaming spirit can also do some good distracting.  I love that term, unruly. It makes me realize that I can tame them. That once again I have a choice about whether to let them rule the use of my energy and my life force or to guide these to help me thrive.

The practice of Creating Space is the practice of  Stillness.  Creating stillness is each of those realms: the body in stillness. In the mind: No inner dialogue. Emotional body: neutral. Spirit: Present. Stillness. Creating Space. It’s a beautiful thing and just one of the practices of Nia that makes Nia my shamanic path.

I have been sick since Thanksgiving. A cold that came in while my dear friend and fellow Nia Trainer in Training was staying with us and c0-teaching the holiday classes with me. There was definitely a cold going around, I’ll give you that. However, I feel that susceptability has to be there as well, and seeing Allison back at the studio with me brought up some of the unfelt grief around a best friend no longer within hugs reach. We taught some great classes. She left, back to Portland , OR. I started feeling better.

Yet, this Monday I had a phone call that brought to me a deeper layer of grief and right after I got off the phone, I felt my sinuses filling up again! Relapse. Now, I know myself and I know why and when I get sick and this was not from being run down. What I have been keenly aware of is this: This week is the week of the last Nia training that Carlos Rosas will be teaching. Ever. Carlos is retiring as of today, I believe. After his last Friday evening class, he is gone. The Belt that is happening this week is Black Belt, which is about going into the unknown and going back to the basics. I feel both of these pulsing in me and this moment feels like a death and a birth and this is the reason I have been brought to my knees.

Here’s how this cold has been helping me to create space. (Did I not realize I would need to create space for this?) I have been up at night many days in a row with my head stuffed like a cabbage. And this has given my mind lots of time to ruminate and cajole my emotional body into feeling the deep grief at losing one of the most important teachers of my life. Rationally, my mind says, “You are not losing him. What he has given you will always be with you.” ” Carlos is moving on and that is a great thing.” I can feel this so clearly and in my heart, I am thrilled that he is able to jump into his own unknown. Although I know all this to be true, it is also my mind distracting me from the place in me that feels abandoned and bereft and maybe even angry.

So in the past few nights, I have been honing the art of creating space. Stillness. Still Body. Still Mind. Spirit Present. All these to create space for my emotions to rage.

When I first heard that Carlos was leaving I had two typical of me optimistic reactions. One was “WOW, Carlos is moving on, how amazing for him!” The second was, “Oh, Boy, I’d better really get on these practices cause if I am not going to have him to show me the way, I had better know the way really well.”  Then came the sadness of no longer being able to spend time in the presence of my beloved teacher.

The feeling of beloved teacher is an ancient one for me. I have had many wonderful teachers in this lifetime and in the millennia that I have existed. I have also been a teacher and am now. The bond and the transmission of the work, the soul altering  transformation that comes from this kind of relationship is one that I have experienced many times. The most powerful teaching comes from one being sharing the truth of their path with another and thereby modeling how to find one’s true path. I want to show and be shown the way. The tao. The teaching is the way.

In Nia, this has always been the case. At the last Brown Belt I was at with Carlos he said that all these practices that came to him came for him to be a better Nia teacher and did not necessarily make him a better person. Now, I do not know Carlos personally, so I can’t say for sure what he meant by that. For me seeing how he developed these practices for Nia  and then went ahead and did them to achieve mastery has not only made me a good Nia teacher, it has also opened up the way to creating the practices that I need to grow in this lifetime. Nia has and continues to make me a better person. I feel Debbie Rosas Stewart, who created Nia with Carlos has a handle on how Nia makes one’s life better and she models this beautifully. Thank goddess she is still with us to share her path.

I am left wondering what I need to learn to create space without creating a situation that is going to force me into stillness.  So many times I have had to still my mind, body and spirit so that I can feel my emotional body rock! Guided by my body to find this. Once there is stillness, it’s easier to distinguish the voices of the universe talking to me. Last night, as I lay in my stuffy head, Nia said to me, ” Feel the joy of this too. It is here for you.” I almost laughed out loud! And then I took the directions and felt what was there for me: the most deep gratitude that I got to spend time receiving from Carlos what he had to share, gratitude that I actually received it and that it is up to me to continue the work for myself and share it with others. Fear of the unknown, of what comes next for me, for Nia and for the Nia community. Sacred knowing that although I am in the unknown, I have the basics down. Joy of movement if present and in the house.  So is that original optimism that I felt. There are so many beings that have also received Carlos’ transmission and many of them are dear to my heart.  The community is strong. And Carlos, I am sure he will continue to thrill the world wherever he goes.

3 thoughts on “Creating Space For This

  1. MY dear Maria,
    Thank you for this beautiful and heart writing/blog.. I loved it. On our last trainer call with Carlos.. he did share that we could hear him within the silence.. I loved that.. that he would always be guiding me ( us).
    I it 7:40 pm EST .. is he last class happening now? I have been dancing and thinking of him all day.
    Feel well..and thank you!

  2. Hi Maria – thanks for this great post. Yes! I have some similar thoughts/feelings – I got “hit” with an almighty “cold” 3 days ago and have had little sleep through the black belt. The result being I had no capacity/energy to be anything other than myself. I entered the training crying, I left the training crying, I delight that I mustered the energy to return to the studio for the last class and, with micro moves, I managed to have fun, smile, no tears for the whole experience. this year has been monumental for me, I’m sitting here at Houston airport waiting for my connecting flight to Dallas – one more class/workshop then HOME for a while. I look forward to rest. I miss Carlos. I grieve. it’s good. I celebrate Debbie and our future – it’s bright

  3. Thanks, Maria. I know you wrote this almost a year ago, but now is the time that I needed to find it. I am still in RAW about my relationship with Nia.

    Love you,

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